8 Most Common Interview Mistakes

What are the most common interview mistakes? Unfortunately, most of us make job interview errors, blunders and mistakes as a candidate for employment without any realizing it.

Here is good news for you, as I have singled out some of the most common interview mistakes. What you need to do is to get prepared beforehand not to stress and get upset because of the errors quite after the interview.

1.    Interview attire. When you are preparing for an interview, make it sure you choose the right clothes to appear in the company; you should look professional and polished. Depending on the position you are applying for your choice of an interview attire may vary. You should keep in mind that regardless of the nature of the company you should go to an interview in a business casual attire. It’s important to dress well and put together, no matter what the company.

2.    Time Management. Introducing for an interview later than the fixed time suggests poor time management skills, as well as it’s a disrespect towards the company, the position you could occupy and even the interviewer. Do your best to arrive on time, and even earlier.

3.    Fuel before beginning the interview. Drink your soda or coffee before entering the interview, as it will seem not only unprofessional, but also, you will be more focused on things at hand and not an interview. For example, you can miss a question while you are sipping coffee, or you will not be able to maintain a good eye contact with the interviewer.

4.    Phone silence mode. It’s highly important and recommended to silence your phone before going to your interview. Moreover, texting during the interview will not only disturb the process, but will also give your interviewer a pretty good message that the job is not your top priority.

5.    Company research. Be ready to be asked by the interviewer “And what do you know about this company?” This may confuse you as you had no idea that it’s a good thing to know about the company you are going to be employed by. What you can do is to dig out some information from their website, the “About US” section, print and read it before you enter the interview.

6.    Job application. Even if before getting your interview invitation you have sent a resume, you may be asked to fill a job application. Make sure that you remember all the necessary information about your prior employment, graduation dates and the employer contacts.

7.    Staying focused. You should not zone out while the interview, as missing out a question will not look right from your  part. Your distraction during the interview will make your interviewer doubt on your being focused on job during the day. However, if you still feel that your attention is slipping away, make an effort to stay engaged. Make a good eye contact with your interviewer and try to lean forward and try to listen effectively.

8.    Talk shortly. You need simply to focus on the question by giving to-the-point answers. Avoid talking on and on, as the interviewer does not need to know all your life. Your personal life is the least that may interest your interviewer, so that miss out the topics on your children, spouse, your home life, etc.

How to Deal With Jealousy With Partner

Whenever there is the feeling of threatened relationship by someone that is outside the relationship, be it romantic, friendship, or parent-child, it’s normal that the jealousy will happen. In the article we are not talking about  situations where people compete, such as the workplace or education. Sometimes jealousy can be mixed with envy, which is defined as you have a  desire to have something that the other person has, which can also be expressed together with jealousy.

Ask yourself Why you are jealous at the moment?
Is it anger because you are afraid to lose your partner?

This usual feeling of jealousy can bring you down and even cause a relationship to pull apart. It may also be a signal that means you either have to take a step to change some aspect in your life that will allow you to go to another stage of emotional growth. Until the feeling of jealousy didn’t tear apart any of your relationships, just take a look at yourself and try to find the source of the fear from where your jealousy stems.

Step 1. Number one self-defense is to recognize the existence of the feeling of jealousy. Jealousy is the combination of fear and anger which is accompanied with the feeling of losing someone. Nothing good can come out of this destructive feeling.

Step 2. Try to figure out the reason of your jealousy. In most cases, jealousy is something we inherit from the experiences of the past that continues to linger there even when you are already with another person and another reality. What you need to do is to be honest with yourself to find out the reason of your jealousy; it can be you are either afraid to lose someone or to stay alone or just you have real reasons not to trust your partner. Either way, try to be objective with the green eyed monster as much as possible.

Step 3. Take a look how other people are affected by your jealousy. The defensive answers your partner gives may seem to be the confirmation of your suspension, but your partner’s reaction is normal when s/he is put under pressure trying to defense himself. These people put under squeeze will feel undermined and frustrated. The lack of trust that was not present previously will  place a wedge in the relationship.

Step 4. Try to question your jealousy each time it occurs. Ask yourself Why you are jealous at the moment? Is it anger because you are afraid to lose your partner? Why you feel anger or why you are afraid? When you spot he green eyed monster on the spot, it will be easier for you to take up positive and constructive steps to sweep away the negative emotions.

Step 5. Apologize. If you have gone far with your accusations towards the person, it’s time to apologize, and not to punish him for your negative emotions. You don’t need to make long apologizing; you just need to say that you are sorry which will be the beginning of a new cycle. If you say that whatever you thought were just silly imaginations of an ill thinking at the moment, that will give both of you a room to discuss what has taken place.

Step 6. Trust yourself. Start trusting yourself from home. Make a list of your good points and stick it somewhere where you can see it  regularly. You should only compare yourself with yourself, only compare your past deeds with the new ones and try to improve them without self-accusation. And it is not by chance that people who have a high self-esteem are the most successful in their everyday relationships, including the relationship with a partner. 

10 Easy Ways to Do Things You Don’t Want to Do

Most of us experience the resistance of doing things that we don’t want to. But not many of us ask the question, Why I don’t want to do things that I should do? Or How to start doing things that I don’t want to do?

Life would be amazing if we only did things that our hearts and feelings wanted to do. Unhappily, the washing dishes and laundry, tasks with deadlines, taxes and difficult conversations are always to be there. Best of the books would never be written and all the achievements of the mankind would never be realized, instead being just imagined.

Well, how to deal with the tasks we don’t want to do? What most of us do is to run and find a distraction. That will usually work until causing you problems. Isn’t it better to find a way to get  a crap done?

Most of us experience the resistance of doing things that we don’t want to.

 So here it is how to get a crap done.

1. Find out the reason you should do the task that you don’t want to do. It an be on your todo list, or someone wants you to do it, and sure you are getting paid for it. The preceding question is, But why? How will it help me? What will I achieve when I have accomplished this crap? Go deeper and deeper to investigate the good you are creating in the world.

2. To your great surprise, the thing that is stopping you from doing the task is fear. It’s the fear what if you fail, or it wouldn’t be looking as good as you would like to. It’s also the fear of discomfort and confusion of the task. Take a moment to find out your fear, accept it instead of running from it.

3. Let go of  the fantasy and  ideal. So when the fear is gone, it becomes easier to manage your tasks. What causes fear? It’s our imagination and fantasy about an ideal life without discomforts that do exist now. That fantasy life is free of confusion, embarrassment, imperfection, which is pretty false. So let go your imaginative world and the ideal life perception and the fears will disappear.

4. Forget about results. You are obsessed with results – what will happen if I do this? What if I will not get the result I’m expecting to? Intention matters, not the result, because it’s in the future. Get focused on your intention; why are you doing it? You do it to make your kids or your beloved one’s  life better. So, it’s your intention that is true no matter what the result is.

5. Embrace the unwanted. From childhood on we start learning that life is not all about the peach topped with roses, as hard things come forward to welcome us. Sometimes you get confused and it sucks; keep your head up, embrace the suck and move on.

6. Get your constraints. I want freedom! I don’t want this! These are common restraints that break our constraints. Unlimited freedom means confusion, unlimited choices and distractions, and yet nothing gets done. Put your constraints and get finished or start one task at a time; forbid yourself from checking any other website to get distracted. Do this at least for 10 minutes. The best way to accomplish this point is to get  a friend to hold you accountable.

7.Learn and Grow… Start to understand yourself, by putting constraints in front of you,  meditating on your fears and goals, freeing yourself of ideal and being grateful. Trough this task you will learn about your mind, by training it to accept the constraints and the difficulties in life. Knowing yourself is a wonderful thing and this time you are going to spend with pleasure!

How to Choose the Right Career For You

Most of the job and career problems stem from the fact that we are so terrible at picking up. In the beginning, we think that we are picking up the right career and the right job, which we start disliking in a while.  Most of the people don’t succeed in choosing their right job (also career) at the first try, and you should not expect  to be an exception.

However, before managing your job choice, let us find out how to pick up the right career in accordance with your personality.

The first step in the path of career is to know yourself.

The first step in the path of career is to know yourself. Either a first-year student or a senior contemplating graduate school it is important to identify your interests, values, skills and personality preferences, which will help you to make the right and informed decision for you. 

Learning about your interests will help you to determine the topics and the field you are drawn to, which will make both your studies and job enjoyable. Alongside with your interests you should also find out their current demand and future opportunities. We have picked up the following interest fields which you should take into consideration: artistic, conventional, enterprising, investigative, realistic, social.

Values are things that are in the core of our nature, as well as they stem from the society we live in. The more successfully you determine the core  values for you, the more you will be motivated in your work and studies. Values influence our decisions significantly and lead us towards our goals.

Skills are things that we are good at and have the ability to do well as compared with other things. A proper assessment of your skills will help you to choose the right career, in which you will be able to have your skills improved later on. It is important that your skills match with your career goals.

Personality and interpersonal needs are consistent over time as they stem from your innate nature. It’s important to understand your interpersonal needs which will allow you to identify the way you make decisions and your work style.

You can also attend different workshops that will somehow help you to determine the sphere you want to specialize in. 

Coffee Benefits and Risks

Coffee was first cultivated by Arabs in the 14^th century. The original coffee is thought to have generated from Ethiopia, East Africa, back as the 13^th century. Starting from the middle of the 15^th century to the 16th-century, coffee reached Yemen, Middle East, Persia, Turkey and northern Africa. Later on coffee spread to the Balkans, Europe, Indonesia and then to America.

Coffee is the second leading worldwide beverage after water.

The Arabs called coffee as ‘ wine of the bean,' which was shortly called qahwa in Arabic. The Turkish borrowed word for it is kahve, which entered into the English language as koffie via Dutch.

Coffee is the second leading worldwide beverage after water. There are ongoing controversies regarding coffee benefits and risks with an evidence of its health promoting potential; however, some researchers insist on and argue about coffee consumption risks like cardiovascular complications and cancer insurgence.

Another research reveals that up to 6 cups of coffee per day will not increase the risk of death from any cause, as well as death from cancer or cardiovascular disease. Pregnant women, people who have a hard time with controlling blood pressure may still avoid coffee or switching  it with decaf. The best thing you can do is to brew coffee with a paper filter which will help to remove the substance that increases cholesterol level in the body.

If you feel stressed, have sleeping problems, or you get tremors, it means you are drinking too much coffee. But in terms of health factors, there are no negative effects if you drink 6 cups of coffee per day. You should keep in mind, that a cup of coffee in most of the studies on coffee is an 8-ounce cup with 100 mg of caffeine. Also keep in mind, that we are talking about black coffee with a little amount of milk and sugar, not about high-calorie coffee beverages that have become so popular over the past few years.

To your great surprise there is a research suggesting that coffee consumption may protect against type 2 diabetes, Parkinson disease, liver cancer and cirrhosis. However, all of the beneficial effects of coffee consumption still need to be confirmed.  

Happiness is a Choice

It is hard to achieve good things in life, which can be love, happiness, health… For each of them, people have to struggle to be granted with the fruits of their hard work and determination.

A century ago most of the mankind worried about surviving; to have enough food to eat, to have a safe place to sleep. Nowadays people may worry about the bad weather, the shape their body or the job they have or they would like to  have. Although there are still people struggling to have their basic needs for food, peace and shelter to be satisfied. But let us admit that most of us enjoy the luxury of little free time when we think whether we are happy or not, and what we need to be happy. 

It’s hard to be happy, and there are a number of things you should work hard on to achieve it. These are things that will frighten you, things that others can’t do and things no one else does. Of course, hard things are the easiest to avoid with a plenty of excuses. Achieving happiness means to step out of your comfort zone and do hard things that many educated and wise people don’t dare to do.

It’s now and TODAY that you should start following the ideas below which will lead you to an amazing life:

1. Take small opportunities every day

Cross out all your fears to take as many chances as you want from life. Big things come out of small ones; so don’t ignore the small to achieve the big one. With no fear, you will get the best chances in your life by overcoming the greatest challenges. A good choice, or a  bad one, you will not know until you take your chance and don’t let others build your own life. 

2. Bother less about what other people think of you

You don’t need anybody’s approval to follow your heart or to be what they want you to be. What is inside your soul is what you are and the judgements by others have little to do with it. Asking for everybody’s approval is not the road to greatness.

3. Ignore what others do or achieve

Life is about living and outgrowing your OWN life, not competing with anyone else. Life is about knowing and breaking your own limits and outdoing your past, not that of the others.

Invest in your life on an everyday - basis. In reality, a few people will stay hundred percent true to you and one of them should be you. Invest in your health, education and  your daily  to-do’s. Most important is to create a life that is beautiful inside and for you, not for outside and everyone else.

 

4. Put your heart into your work. 

 Love what you do. Put your heart in your goals that move you and work hard. In the end what you feel is love when you are tired and still struggling.

5. Don’t fear the mistakes of the past. 

Sometimes you need to make mistakes and feel like a fool. Most of the successful people are those who have overcome so much challenge in their lives. They have fallen and found enough strength to stand up. Let your mistakes of the past teach you how to be stronger for later on.

6. Never give up. 

When everything is going wrong, just take a breath for a moment and think about most successful and happy people, who are not always winners; they don’t give up when they lose. Your spirit is strong to struggle the challenges which will take you not to an easier life, but to a prosperous and happy life.

7. Fight for what you believe in. 

You can still achieve things that others think is impossible to. Your efforts and struggle to achieve what you believe in will give you the best of the results either you win or lose in the end. Eventually, things will fall into their place… you will feel content to have done enough for what you got or for what you lost. Things will be the way they are meant to be…

8. See the good side of everything. 

Random circumstances are not what shape the happiness in your heart and mind. The positive mind and thinking brings you to beautiful things. Smile now, by trying to see the good side of everything. Sometimes smiling simply means how strong you are, not how happy you are.  

Brief History of Martini: Classic Martini Recipe

”I had never tasted anything so cool and clean.” “They made me feel civilized.”Ernest Hemingway novel Farewell to Arms.

They may serve you a drink with a long-stemmed “V” shaped glass, which doesn’t mean yet it is the best Martini for you. For many people, classic Martini is a mixture of gin and vermouth and only – nothing more, nothing less.

What is the modern definition of a classic martini?

classic Martini is a mixture of gin and vermouth and
only – nothing more, nothing less.

It is gin (vodka), dry vermouth and an olive oil or lemon twist garnish. However, the current martini is far from its old origins, even if given a long definition of it.

The earliest story on the origins of Martini comes from the Gold Rush in San Francisco. It was sometime in 1870s when a bartender named Jerry Thomas invented a special drink for a miner who wanted to exchange something special for a gold nugget. The miner came from Martinez, California, which was the reason Jerry called the special drink Martinez… The initial recipe was bitters – 1 dash, maraschino – 2 dashes, a glass of sweet vermouth, a pony of sweetened gin and a slice of lemon. As a matter of fact, there is nothing near to today's definition of Martini consisting of gin  and vermouth.

With the turn of the century there came some other variations of the martini, which contained sweet vermouth and gin (equal parts), sometimes with orange bitters. Here again, no similarity with the definition of modern classic martini.

Another story glorifying the invention of martini goes with an Italian bartender and immigrant in New York City Martini di Arma di Taggia. He claimed to invent the drink before World War I. His recipe consisted of equal parts of dry vermouth and dry gin, plus orange bitters.

Martinis owes its popularity to the marketing of gin by liquor companies during the 1950s. The popularity of martini also decreased due to the marketing of vodka in 1970s. At any time, the product placement and the celebrity endorsements increased the popularity of Martini; celebrities like Ernest Hemingway, David Niven, Hamphrey and Marlene Dietrich were seen drinking Martini in public, and more powerfully, on screen, so that anyone else wanted to drink Martini as well.

How to Make Classic Martini? Here is the Perfect Martini Recipe

Yields: 1 serving

Prep time: 5 min

Ingredients at hand:

Gin or Vodka (your choice) * – 2 ounces (1 ounce is 28 grams)

Dry vermouth – ½ ounce

Green olives – pimento (large ones)

Ice Cubes

Twist of Lemon

* 1 ounce is 2 tablespoons - 1 shot glass = 1 1/2 ounces.

How to prepare Classic Martini?

Like, we do with beer glasses, in this case we put the martini glasses into the freezer.

Fill the cocktail shaker with ice cubes and pour gin or vodka inside. Shake at least 10 seconds.

Pour the shake into a martini cocktail glass (no ice should be in the glass).

Garnish either with olives or a lemon twist.

What Are the Best Dessert Wines?

The definition of dessert wine is simple: it’s any sweet wine people drink during meals (particularly dessert, bakery goods and fruit). However, the wine alone is appreciated as dessert. There are various amazing wines for cheese, fresh fruit or chocolate; dessert wine just complements all of the so beautifully.

Your selection of dessert wine depends on the flavors, weight and colors of the pairing dessert. There are four basic categories of dessert wines: late-harvest and ice wines, botrytized wines, vin santo and fortified wines. For the production of each category of sweet wine, a different  viticultural process is applied, but the result is the same; glorious sweet wine.

How to Choose a Dessert Wine?

The four categories of dessert wine are ice wines, botrytized wines, vin santo and fortified wines.

To make your best choice you need to know what are the different types of dessert wines on offer, and from where you can buy them. The article will help you to throughout your drinking experience to have he satisfying result.

Step 1: To get to know the different types of dessert wine, which are late-harvest and ice wines, botrytized wines, vin santo and fortified wines; you should taste at least one bottle from each type.

Step 2: Nowadays, buying a quality wine is not that difficult task for you if you know how to search it. Many local supermarkets, liquor stores and chain wine stores offer a variety of quality wines, but you should not avoid the chance of checking some boutiques or wine specialized stores to find your best dessert wine.

Step 3: Consider the bottle size. Many stores offer both small size and large size bottles (small size is usually 375 ml). As sweet wines are richer in flavors than the standard ones, a small bottle will go a very long way. Larger size is usually more expensive, but before choosing the size of your dessert wine read the following points; a) a standard pour when serving a dessert wine is 59 ml b) take into consideration the number of people you are going to serve wine c) and in the end, find out how many bottles of wine you need to buy.

Step 4:  What is the cellaring potential of sweet wines? If you are keen on collecting and keeping them for some time, then you should know that sweetest wines are ideal for long-term cellaring.  Regardless of its expensive price, German sweet wine is the best to for long-term cellaring which age and mature quite well. While purchasing wine for cellaring ask the retailers for their suggestions.

Step 5. How to serve sweet wine? Dessert wine can be served alone or with dessert, but the best thing to do is to try the wine alone for the first time and serve it with  dessert for the next time. Take into account that the wine should be sweeter than the dessert. Drier cake types will get along with dessert wine. A red dessert wine is perfect with chocolate-based dessert.

What Are the 7 Worst Foods to Eat?

If you want to avoid health problems and stay fit and healthy, you need to know the worst foods you can eat and keep those supermarket staples away from your everyday grocery shopping. Keep up with the worst food list below to avoid damaging effects on your body.

#1 Worst Food: Frozen Meals

Frozen meals are rich in calories and fat.

Frozen meals are loaded with calories though they may look tiny. One popular brand of chicken pot pie contains 63 grams of fat and 1,010 calories (per serving). It is recommended to consume  the diet versions of this frozen food which is low in calories and fat.

#2 Worst Food: Processed Baked Goods

Switch processed baked foods with
fresh fruits

Being honest, they are so tasty, so good to start the day with (and not only), but let us be careful with what we offer to our body. Those pre-packed muffins, dessert cakes, doughnuts, will load your body with tonnes of calories and sugar, moreover, they are difficult to digest. The high-sugar content in processed baked goods can literally stay in your body forever. Instead, avoid this wrapped stuff and fill your weekly diet with fresh fruits.

#3 Worst Food: Soda

Soda consumption may cause high
sugar level in the body.

Dietitians agree that the soda should be taken off completely from your eating diet. Did you know that one can of soda is can of water containing ten packs of sugar? From now on you know it, which is a good reason to switch your drinking soda habit with a cup of water (why not you may add to it a slice of fresh fruit to make it sweeter).

#3 Worst Food: Potato Chips & French Fries

Foods baked at a high temperature
 may cause cancer.

It’s well known that potato chips & French Fries are not good for your waistlines as they contain a considerable amount of fat. Such foods, baked or fried at a high temperature, contain acrylamide, a known carcinogen, which is the cause of several thousand cancers per year within Americans.

#4 Worst Food: Sugary Cereal

Sugary Cereals increase sugar level
in the body.

Sugary Cereals, frosted flakes, may taste like a sweet nostalgia, but you should always keep in mind that it has  a high amount of inflammation-causing sugar and gluten. For those who have sensitive skin, sugary cereals may cause breakouts, redness and increased breakouts. Your choice should be low-sugar, gluten-free corn-flakes.

       

  

#5 Worst Food: Stick Margarine

Replace margarine with a small amount
 of regular sugar

Switch it with a regular butter (small amount) when topping foods or baking. Stick margarine is loaded with trans fat. Keep in mind that foods like pastries, crackers and snacks contain stick margarine and may cause high-cholesterol level in your body.

#6 Worst Food: Bacon

Bacon is rich in sodium and fat.

You are into Bacon in many occasions; at breakfast, when topping salads, or adding to your sandwich? You will say that it contains 45 calories a strip. That’s true, but in this case you forget that it’s high in fat and sodium.  The best options for you are nuts and veggies, with which you will avoid problems with heart and digestive system.

#7 Worst Food: Soy Sauce

Light-sodium soy sauce is the best
option. 

It goes beyond saying that soy sauce contains a number of essential vitamins and minerals. It’s important to know that soy sauce contains high sodium, which will cause hypertension. There are so many options of light-sodium soy sauce that you shouldn't go the regular set of foods to buy. Moreover, it is recommended to use the light stuff sparingly.