Most of us
experience the resistance of doing things that we don’t want to. But not many
of us ask the question, Why I don’t want to do things that I should do? Or
How to start doing things that I don’t want to do?
Life would
be amazing if we only did things that our hearts and feelings wanted to do.
Unhappily, the washing dishes and laundry, tasks with deadlines, taxes and
difficult conversations are always to be there. Best of the books would never
be written and all the achievements of the mankind would never be realized,
instead being just imagined.
Well, how to
deal with the tasks we don’t want to do? What most of us do is to run and find a
distraction. That will usually work until causing you problems. Isn’t it better
to find a way to get a crap done?
Most of us experience the resistance of doing things that we don’t want to. |
So here it is how to get a crap done.
1. Find out
the reason you should do the task that you don’t want to do. It an be on your todo
list, or someone wants you to do it, and sure you are getting paid for it. The
preceding question is, But why? How will it help me? What will I
achieve when I have accomplished this crap? Go deeper and deeper to
investigate the good you are creating in the world.
2. To your
great surprise, the thing that is stopping you from doing the task is fear.
It’s the fear what if you fail, or it wouldn’t be looking as good as you would
like to. It’s also the fear of discomfort and confusion of the task. Take a
moment to find out your fear, accept it instead of running from it.
3. Let go
of the fantasy and ideal. So when the fear is gone, it becomes
easier to manage your tasks. What causes fear? It’s our imagination and fantasy
about an ideal life without discomforts that do exist now. That fantasy life is
free of confusion, embarrassment, imperfection, which is pretty false. So let
go your imaginative world and the ideal life perception and the fears will
disappear.
4. Forget
about results. You are obsessed with results – what will happen if I do
this? What if I will not get the result I’m expecting to? Intention matters,
not the result, because it’s in the future. Get focused on your intention; why
are you doing it? You do it to make your kids or your beloved one’s life better. So, it’s your intention that is
true no matter what the result is.
5. Embrace
the unwanted. From childhood on we start learning that life is not all about
the peach topped with roses, as hard things come forward to welcome us.
Sometimes you get confused and it sucks; keep your head up, embrace the suck
and move on.
6. Get your
constraints. I want freedom! I don’t want this! These are common
restraints that break our constraints. Unlimited freedom means confusion,
unlimited choices and distractions, and yet nothing gets done. Put your
constraints and get finished or start one task at a time; forbid yourself from
checking any other website to get distracted. Do this at least for 10 minutes. The
best way to accomplish this point is to get a friend to hold you accountable.
7.Learn and
Grow… Start to understand yourself, by putting constraints in front of you, meditating on your fears and goals, freeing
yourself of ideal and being grateful. Trough this task you will learn about
your mind, by training it to accept the constraints and the difficulties in
life. Knowing yourself is a wonderful thing and this time you are going to
spend with pleasure!
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